Me, myself and my thoughts....

I have moved my blog from blogspot to wordpress...

Its an adieu to blogspot....I will never forget the experience with blogspot since it helped me to get a writer out of me...It was the stepping stone...

I have no idea if I will be migrating this olds posts to wordpress or just leave them as a mark in blogspot...

Please continue reading by blogs through wordpress...

Stay connected... :)

Posted by Gokul Kannan Jeyapaul at 11:50 PM | Permalink | Comments

A lot of times we come across lot of people saying “At the end of the day what matters is…”

Just a phrase or a sentence during casual talk, Isn’t it?

But what really matters at the end of the day?? Is it happiness?? Is it joy?? Is it money?? Or else what is it that matters??

I know now each one may have different answers…The answer does vary…But all it ends up in “self satisfaction”. I think happiness, joy and all what you want at the end of the day is subset of self satisfaction.

Well people again define (self) satisfaction in their own terms, for me it’s living my life the way I wish…

Did I ever a single day of my life as I wish?? When I ask this to myself…I don’t really get an answer…May be yes…may be no…or may be not…

I decided that I should be myself from now on…no matter what it costs…no matter where it takes…unless and then it hurts someone I decided I should be myself…Whether its work or play or fun…

So from now on “At the end of the day what matters is my self satisfaction…”

Posted by Gokul Kannan Jeyapaul at 12:52 AM | Permalink | Comments

Hmmm….Now don’t raise your eyebrows or sigh on the monitor…This is not all about Einstein’s theory of relativity but the core concept is derived from it :)

Well what is relativity? And why is it the point of discussion now?

I would define it as all things, perspectives, thoughts and all other human mental parameters are relative.

Wait! Relative! Relative to what?

Good question :) well relative to their own belief of facts, inference and experiences in their own life, Isn’t it true?

My one and half year old niece likes candies and ice-creams as every other kid does, wherever he finds an ice-cream parlor or candy shop his siren goes up, Well my belief or inference from the past is that he might catch cold if he eats ice creams. So I would say a big NO! NO! The rest of the struggle for ice-cream that happens is a history :)

Yes I did say belief or inference from past, that’s right! This means in some corner of mind there is a belief that ice-creams are not good for him at that time…Now the question is how did I come to this conclusion? May be my past experience, either a self experience or an experience where in I learnt from a similar situation which happened to my neighbor’s kid? Or the decisive factors around, May be the climate was too cold for an ice-cream. It’s based on all these parameters of belief and constraints we make up our decisions.

And believe me almost most of the decisions cannot be rolled back, it’s always like
“Two roads diverged; I took the one less traveled and that made all the difference”

So next time when we decide lets keep in mind, Lets throw away all our past experiences, because situations where you might need to take a decision will always not be the same and theory of reusability can hold good for physical things but not for decisions. Start Fresh, Analyze the situation…Think on a long term basis…Always decide for the future too, because that’s what planning is all about, Mark down the pros and cons of a decision, decide upon the returns you expect and then work according to your brain rather than your heart (at least for decisions, For love it’s the vice versa).

Once decided…Start working on it (the one I miss often), then you can change the lines as
“Two roads diverged; I took the one relatively better and that has made all the (positive) difference”

Posted by Gokul Kannan Jeyapaul at 6:24 PM | Permalink | Comments

I am back again with a words of new thoughts in my mind :)

Yes This is about the wonderful feelings which most of us have in our life. These moments were silent yet happy where just eyes speak and hearts listen. Well most of them call these as most romantic moments.
This happend in 05-Apr-06, Well thats how we denote dates in our workplace ;)

It was asusual a lazy morning, I did not want to get up from my bed but I had to do it reluctantly. I got ready within 30 minutes and was in my cubicle within 15 minutes from there.

Everything was the same, Codes..exceptions..bugs..reports..coffee's nothing changed till the moment I was in a meeting with my lead in San Jose. And me and my collegue were even pretty surprised hear our project manager was gonna join with us during the meeting. Well as usual my panaromic guess, my brain started pumping its own imagination. It started sending signals thats its gonna be regarding some extra work we had to do...or some mistake we did...or some expectation mismatch and blah!blah!blah!blah!

It was meeting time and we were asusual ahead of my PL in the meeting bridge, We were used to attending more meetings that even the inbuilt voice guidelines were in our memory :)

And our PM also joined in with us with an unusual smile in his face. Now my brain started acting again...I said to myself..Chill off! Chill off! This is yet another meeting and nothing strange..And if at all something bad happens face it because some way or other you are a reson for it. Now I was brave as Titan from Greece..Ready to face what ever it costs..

Now our PL was logged in the bridge, We exchanged usual wishes...Then she started telling our efforts were recognized. Recognized! What? Is it positive or negative? Within a second next words came, she said you have been awarded one of the prestigious awards as a part of appreciation for our work.

Wow! Here is that wonderful silent moment, Now my PM smiled at us again and handed over the appreciation letters. His eyes glittered in happiness which illuminated our mind and soul with happiness inturn. With a plain smile towards my colleague I started reading my appreciation letter. Each and every word in there was empowering my mind, Yes..What she had said was right! our efforts were recognized...The rest of the meeting was asusual.
After the meeting I came to my cubicle with a silent unexpressive happiness in my mind. I gazed at the monitor and smiled silently to myself...I started thinking..Did I really do it? Is my effort so valuable? All kind of questions.

But yes the moment of silence and happiness was rejoicing. I loved my career so much and I took this as a return symbol of love from it.

This was the recent wonderful moment, But each one of us would have our own wonderful moments, The thing is how were recognize it and enjoy it...Feel it..because if you miss it you are missing something worthy in life...You are missing an oppurtunity to understand yourself...You are missing to love yourself.
Even if the moments is happy or sad, Spend some time with yourself alone you will learn something from it :)

HaPpY WoNdErFuL MoMeNtS!!!

Posted by Gokul Kannan Jeyapaul at 10:49 PM | Permalink | Comments

“When you walk with the Giants you learn to fly…..”

This is one of my favorite quotes…

This might be a familiar quote…I heard it on my first job when I was working as Support Professional….

There had been times when this quote was really true..

Now I’m working with the giants…Im learning flying :)

Wat it simply means is that…..One step of a giant is like flying for us when we try to walk with them….Which simply means for that we need to fly to maintain pace with the them…

At times I feel Im lacking the so called dynamism in me…:) coz as my mom always says im the most laziest creature in the whole world…

So what im planning to do is maintain a work log for my daily working and log in every moment of my work…

At the end of the week I would be knowing how much I spent useful and how much was a waste…Also we would be conscious about what we are doing :)

Im planning to start this strategy from this Monday…I will keep writing how it worked for me J if it’s a success you can also give it a try…

This is especially for lazy people like me ;)

Posted by Gokul Kannan Jeyapaul at 6:11 AM | Permalink | Comments

This is of course common saying...

But in real life we are more accustomed to usual things, meaning usual routines which makes us feel the changes implemented on them is tough to adhere with...

For example…
Previously I used to come in the Metropolitan Transport Corporation bus for which i start by 7:30AM to the bus stop, I get a bus by 7:45 AM and I get in to it and reach my office by 8:30AM,I was getting used to it...

One day the bus was late...It was heavy down pour.... Alas. I couldn’t bear that change...I was scolding the Bus driver, The TN Government, The Rain and each n everything around me...

After a few weeks I happened to get accustomed to the habit of getting my dad's vehicle to office...And incase there’s is some mishap or there a problem in the vehicle...Again its a change...and same old thing happens again


This might sound something like Pavlov's experiment which we mite be familiar with...But Pavlov’s experiment demonstrates the adaptability of humans towards a particular day to day activity on the other case now the focus is on the resistivity towards change to the adaptability of regular activities...


Recently I read a book named "Who moved my cheese??" This is really a beautiful and popular book, which describes how we get used to regular day-to-day life, and why we resist changes...and what are the steps, which must be done to make us used to these changes.... Perhaps this book influenced me to write this blog.....

But what I feel is "Changes remain as changes as long we get accustomed to it..."


So lets try to get accustomed to them.... How??

The change(s) brings us to a new situation, which was not expected, new problem or new solution, which we ever thought of...A new start or a blunt end, which we never planned.... An expected happiness or unexpected sorrow....

Incase if the change brings us all on the positive side lets learn what made it a success, why is it a positive and try to implement the same strategy in all forthcoming days??
Incase it brings thing on the negative side then also lets learn and analyze what made it negative and how to avoid in the future...

All these analysis would finally end up in knowing our strength and weakness; we will improve our strength and try to reduce our weakness....

Of course this process is not that much simple to be done in a fortnight...We must even get accustomed to this kind of analysis of problems and changes :), Practice makes a man perfect...So lets start practicing this as soon as possible....

But as the saying goes "If u don’t strive hard to get what u like u will be forced to like what u get..." This also is a saying indirectly implying change...Try to have a voluntary and an expected change towards a positive direction or u would be forced for an eventual unexpected change...

What’s this...I have used the word "change" too much.... I hate this word now :( SOMEBODY HELP ME FROM THIS "CHANGE"

Posted by Gokul Kannan Jeyapaul at 3:50 AM | Permalink | Comments

Its really long since i posted something in here....
Last week was heavy with work,lots of changes in specifications etc...So didnt find time to write much ...
So im jus posting the lyrics of my one of the favourite songs...

Titanic-My heart will go on and on


Every night in my dreams
I see you. I feel you.
That is how I know you go on.

Far across the distance
And spaces between us
You have come to show you go on.

Near, far, wherever you are
I believe that the heart does go on
Once more you open the door
And you're here in my heart
And my heart will go on and on

Love can touch us one time
And last for a lifetime
And never let go till we're gone

Love was when I loved you
One true time I hold to
In my life we'll always go on

Near, far, wherever you are
I believe that the heart does go on
Once more you open the door
And you're here in my heart
And my heart will go on and on

There is some love that will not
go away

You're here, there's nothing I fear,
And I know that my heart will go on
We'll stay forever this way
You are safe in my heart
And my heart will go on and on

Posted by Gokul Kannan Jeyapaul at 10:18 PM | Permalink | Comments